The Battle I Didn’t Choose

Today is the start of my fourth week of chemo, and sometimes it’s still surreal that I have brain cancer. It just doesn’t seem real. In so many ways I feel the same as always, almost like nothing is different except for the fact that I get sick a lot, have lost some hair and sleep more than my cat. But there are these fleeting moments when I feel…well, normal, just like my old, healthy self, and it’s hard to believe that I’m battling an illness as big as I am.

Now, I know a lot of people who tell me not to claim cancer, which I don’t. One thing that I think others fail to realize is that it’s not easy when you have reality staring directly at you, and you’re trying to take God’s Word and His truth and place that over reality’s truth. It’s not easy. So no, I do not claim this — but that doesn’t mean that I’m naive or oblivious to the very real lecherous disease that is attacking my brain.

In the beginning of this, I had so many people praying over me and telling me that perhaps my scans were wrong or that I would go back to see another doctor and that they would say that there’s been a miraculous healing, and I genuinely believed that. It was extremely rough for me to believe with every fiber of my being that I was already healed, only to find out that the cancer was still there, and my prognosis remained the same: 2-3 years to live, maybe 5 if I’m “one of the fortunate 20-25%.”

I tried my hardest not to cry or show any kind of negative emotion regarding my illness. I felt that if I cried or was scared that it somehow meant that I was expressing unbelief in God and my healing. I didn’t realize how wrong I was. It took many talks with my honey and my parents to realize that it’s incredibly normal, even as a Christian, to have a range of emotions that bounces up and down, especially when facing such a serious, life-threatening battle.

It seems like that seems to my everyday life since the diagnosis. I bounce back and forth from feeling super-confident in God to feeling scared and fearful of the future. Last Monday was my 28th birthday, and no matter how much I tried to remain positive and just enjoy my special day, in the back of my head I kept wondering, “How many more do I have left?”

I’d love to be that one who beats the odds and ends up with an amazing testimony of healing that inspires and encourages so many others, but it’s hard when I’ve already known three Christians who believed just the way I do, and each of them has lost their battle to cancer within the last two years. That’s what I mean when I talk about reality’s truth vs. God’s truth. No matter how much I believe, nothing will change the fact that I don’t know what God has in store for me. I don’t know what He is doing with my life. I don’t know how or when this ends.

What I do know is that through it all, regardless of it all, I will love God and trust Him as much as I am possibly able to.

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6 thoughts on “The Battle I Didn’t Choose

  1. Marlene C. says:

    Holly, I had no idea until last Monday when your post on fb showed up in my news feed. I had been out of touch with what you had going on in life until then. We will never understand why some suffer so much and so young. You are very wise beyond your age. As a Christian, you will just have to trust God with what plans he has for your life. It’s all any of us can do on our walk with Him. Life is fragile. Life throws us twists and turns. You are one of the rare few who has lived life to the full! I will add you to my prayer list. Those who love and care about you are joining you in your journey of life and faith. You don’t walk alone, even if you don’t see some of us.

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    • Marlene–

      Thank you so much for reminding me to trust God. Sometimes it can be so hard to know and understand what He is doing. Regardless of what His plan is, I am determined to continue walking by faith and cling to His promises.

      Thank you for your prayers and continued support. I’m so grateful to have a Sister like you who is faithfully uplifting me to Him.

      I love and miss you!

      xoxo
      Holly Marie

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